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Part 2: Preparing Yourself For A Joint Custody Routine

May 22, 2018

 

In part one of this series, we explored ways in which you can prepare your child for a joint custody situation.

 

But what about you? How are you coping with all of these changes?

As parents, splitting custody is a necessary, but difficult compromise. If it were up to you, you’d be able to spend every waking minute with your child.

However, it’s necessary to acknowledge that this is the best outcome for your child, as well as the other parent involved. Still, it’s difficult to reconcile with this new situation.

That’s why we’ve developed a few tips to help you prepare yourself for a new joint custody situation. Continue reading to learn more and contact the Atlanta family law attorneys at The Fairell Firm today if you need help fighting for joint custody.

how to prepare yourself for a joint custody situation. Plan ahead: refer to the schedule in the parenting plan, consider your work schedule and plan accordingly, make the most of your time with your child. Set hurt aside: don't feel sorry for yourself or assess blame to anyone, allow the co-parenting situation to benefit your child, be there physically and emotionally to support your child. Communicate: when possible, work to form a healthy communication, remain mature when it comes to resolving disputes and making decisions. Take time for yourself: allow yourself to experience happiness, acknowledge your self-worth, harbor a happy healthy environment for you and your child

Have A Plan

This was the first tip in the first part of our series, and we’ll repeat it again here. Having a structured parenting plan not only helps your child know what to expect, but it also helps you better prepare for what’s coming.

Knowing the schedule ahead of time puts you in a position to make the most out of the time you get with your child — from planning meals and activities to adjusting your work schedule, if necessary.

A plan also gives you something to look forward to, knowing that in just a few more days you’ll have your child back under your care once again.

Set Hurt Aside

One of the most common coping methods that divorced parents experience is feeling like the situation is unfair.

However, when considering what’s best for your child, it’s abundantly clear that having both parents present is beneficial.

Rather than blaming yourself, the other parent, or the system for your current situation, do your best to set this hurt aside so that you can truly be there, physically and emotionally, for your child. Similar situations show time and time again that support and a willingness to work toward a co-parenting solution makes children happier and more successful.

Be Open And Communicative

Despite the fact that you are no longer married, it’s imperative that you and the other parent still work as a team when it comes to raising your children.

Do your part to maintain a healthy, two-way communicative relationship when it comes to raising your child, making important decisions, and resolving disputes.

Be sure to remain mature and business-like in your approach when discussing matters with your ex, and think about your what’s best for your child in every situation.

Take Time For Yourself

You’re going to hurt. You’re going to be stressed. And, you’re going to long for a better solution.

However, it’s important that you don’t lose sight of yourself as an individual. Even in difficult times when your child is with the other parent, you can take some time for yourself.

Plan a spa day. Focus on your career. Treat yourself to a night out. It’s important to keep in mind that you haven’t lost your worth because of this situation.

Need help with a child custody case in Atlanta? Contact the compassionate, stalwart family law attorneys at The Fairell Firm. We’re here to help.

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